Wednesday, November 01, 2006

FRUSTRATING WEEKEND AHEAD

Maxwell's father is coming this weekend...and the plans thus far are a little bizarre and frustrating.

I was really hoping we could set aside our differences and be cordial for the benefit of Maxwell. I tried, I really tried. I offered up our home for his time with Max, I offered up our nursing hours, I offered up as much time as he wants.

How much easier could I make this for him? But he just refuses to be even remotely pleasant. I mean, come on...this man has not seen his son in nearly a year. Shouldn't he be responsible enough to ask me what I think is best for the visit? Shouldn't he care what is best and most comfortable for Maxwell?

There is so much more I could say on this subject, but enough for now. His visit is only for a few hours so it will be over before we know it.

11 comments:

CrystalandEva said...

Hang in there Amy we are all here if you ever need to talk. Some men are just horrible and when they become "dads" they act like bigger jerks.
Hugs,
Crystal and Eva

elle said...

he doesnt deserve to b a dad y is he coming anyway

Momof2 said...

He's probably so hateful because knows how wrong he is on every level, so he has to cop an attitude to deflect that. Awfully funny how elections are coming up next week and he has chosen this weekend for a visit, huh? I hope that it's a supervised visit and that he's not using it as a photo op. I'm a registered Republican in Kanawha County and he won't be getting my vote, ever! (is he even running this year? I haven't seen a thing about him).

Jaye said...

For Maxs sake, I'm glad he gets to see his father....however, all the stress that is going with it makes it not even worth it to this sweet little man! Hang in there Amy..Max knows who is REAL parent is! :)
Hugs
Jaye

Drew said...

Hey Amy,

I'm sorry you have to deal with that Vic Sprouse jackass. I guess the 2008 election cycle is just around the corner, time to start getting ahead of the deadbeat dad charge now...by making a single visit for a couple of hours each year...Please!

I sure hope Max is ok with complete Strangers!!

Drew

Mary Karr said...

Amy -

Unfortunately, since Maxwell's father has never held him, the visit isn't about what is best for Maxwell - it's about his father making an appearance.

I have spent hours thinking about the situation, crying about it and praying about it. It breaks my heart. I can only imagine how difficult it is for you.

Try to think of it not as a fragile little boy being with his daddy but as just another appointment Maxwell has.

Diane said...

If daddy wants to be a part of his son's life, he needs to not come and go. My daughter is adopted and all of a sudden her dad wanted to come into her life and she got all excited. Well, that was a one and only time visit. Her happiness didn't last long. Hope Maxwell doesn't have a vomiting spell. LOL. Read between the lines.

No, he won't get my vote and I wondered if he was running, too. Haven't seen any ads on him.

Max may not like this and may set him back a litle. He needs to be supervised when visiting Max. What if Max needs medical attention, does his dad know what to do????

Hugs,
Diane and Alx

Steph said...

Well, the Vic Sprouse re-election bid has officially begun. Guess he's looking ahead to 2008, or perhaps leadership will soon decide whether to keep him in his leadership position.

I'm already thinking about his re-election campaign too...can't wait to be a part of the opponent's effort.

On top of everything else, he has never held his beautiful son, visited once in 2006 for a couple of hours...give me a break.

Sorry you have to deal with him at all, Amy. Good luck getting through it. I can't imagine how stressful this is...

Anonymous said...

Amy,
I have asked my friends and family to say prayers for you and max..Please, continue hold your head high, with the dignity,grace, and beauty you have while soon to be ex is here. I sent you an email hope it might be helpful.
Love and MANY MANY MANY Prayers
Ang

carolyn said...

Max & Amy,
I'm sending lots of prayers your way. Can't believe he wants to visit for a few hours. What is he trying to prove???

All your family and friends are here for you.

Love & Prayers,
Carolyn

MarkCoyle said...

VicMouse is just that, a MOUSE, not a man.